Last week many of us celebrated Thanksgiving. Then there was
Giving Tuesday. With these two occasions and with all of the holidays still to
come*, I can’t help but find my mind turning to thinking about others more
often.
I don’t consider myself a particularly selfish or
self-centered person, thinking only of myself. Those that I love and care about
are never far from my mind. But this time of year always affects my head and my
heart in a little bit of a different way. I have the privilege of spending time
with family during this time of year. I have a couple of fun gatherings to
attend with the wonderful friends and colleagues in my life. I have a little
one and get to see the season anew through her eyes. I imagine I am not alone
in this enhanced feeling of sentiment and generosity.
The thing is this: I don’t want these deep feelings of generosity and, when it comes down to
it, community - because my family,
my friends, and my colleagues are my community – to be elevated only during a
particular season. So then, how can this mindset be cultivated beyond this time
of year?
Reflection
Some traditions around the holiday season ask us to contemplate
what and for whom we are grateful, reflect on the year we are leaving behind, and
consider what we want for the upcoming year. This practice connects us deeply to
ourselves, one another, and to our wishes and goals. Making this a habit in our
lives by practicing active reflection with more intention – on a daily,
monthly, or even quarterly basis – can extend something that is the focus of a
season to the entire year.
Time Together
For many of us, seasonal festivities give us the opportunity
to celebrate and spend time with one another. I admit that it isn’t practical
to have huge celebrations and parties every month of the year, but it is
possible to spend meaningful time with those we care about and to do so on a
regular basis. Dates with friends and loved ones don’t have to be expensive or
elaborate. Coffee dates, running errands
together, birthday dinners, shared lunch breaks, video calls, and online chats
are all chances to be generous with our time, our heart, our ideas, and to connect
with those we are in community with.
Reminders
As life returns to a more “regular” day-to-day schedule
after the holidays, we can easily get caught up in, well, the day-to-day. We
schedule so many things in our life, why not extend that routine and create
reminders right into our calendar that prompt us spend time in reflection and
to connect with those we care about? It is important and deserves dedicated
time.
We are curious - what ways do you extend the traditions of
generosity and community beyond the season? Tell us in the comments!
*I recently saw a post on Facebook that shared that between
November 1 and January 15 there are about 29 holidays observed by 7 major
religions!
This post was contributed by staff member Kristen H.